Nagging

Buzzard is working and going to college and taking care of his family.  Due to my disability he carries a bigger responsibility than he did before.  I try to find other ways to do things or wait till he is off to ask him to do something like move a table for me.  Sometimes I will interrupt him while he is studying and ask him if he can do such and such when he takes a break.  With him having so many things on his mind right now I know he sometimes gets lost in what he is doing and forgets that I have asked him to do something.  The quandary I come upon is: if I remind him am I nagging?  If I don’t remind him he may not remember that I need such and such done.  I have to admit there have been times when I have reminded him then felt like I was being a nag afterwards.  Other times I have not said anything about it again, but have stewed over the fact that he didn’t remember.  This stewing has shown up in my behavior too, I’m sorry to say, which in turn affects the whole family.  As I was writing this it dawned upon me that the best way for me to handle these types of situations is to sit down with him when he isn’t busy and ask him what he would like me to do when it slips his mind that I needed something done.  I would start this conversation by letting him know how much I appreciate everything he does and that I know he is usually very busy right now.  I want him to know that I respect him and want to honor his role as leader of our home.

Maybe there have been times recently when you have been a nag.  It is not very becoming or respectful for a wife to be this way.  If you find yourself nagging your loved one you should find a way to change this behavior.  If you don’t know how to do this start with prayer.  God may show you how to change or He may want you to go to your husband to discuss it.  Your husband is there to guide you, God made him to be a leader of your home.

Please don’t misunderstand me; if your husband isn’t doing anything you ask of him and he isn’t overly busy, asking him more than once to do something isn’t being a nag. I don’t mean that our husband shouldn’t have time to himself.  What I am say is that not spend all his time just pursuing his own interest, he should be willing to help you too.  Websters dictionary defines nag as: to be a persistent source of annoyance or distraction.  I would think that being annoying would be if you are interrupting him over and over while he is busy working, doing important things, or spending some relaxing time by himself .

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One Response

  1. One of the things I have started doing is keep a running list for myself of the things I need DH to do. Then I give him a list of 3 to 5 of the things I need done that he can choose from to do when he isn’t busy. If the list I give him is longer than 5 things, then it becomes overwhelming for my DH to work on.

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